Monday, August 29, 2011
Saturday, May 14, 2011
Amplify Your Vote and Win!
Big Brother wants your Vote: Just remember you are voting to keep a nominated Housemate in the House!
Which means, the more you vote for your favourite nominated Housemate, the better their chance of staying in the house.
The Housemate who receives the least number of votes will be Evicted.
When you Vote, you also stand the chance of winning weekly prizes.
The following awesome prizes are up for grabs: DStv Decoders, and from Samsung: Cameras, Camcorders, Laptops, Smartphones and the Galaxy Tab.
Click here to read the Terms and Conditions.
Which means, the more you vote for your favourite nominated Housemate, the better their chance of staying in the house.
The Housemate who receives the least number of votes will be Evicted.
When you Vote, you also stand the chance of winning weekly prizes.
The following awesome prizes are up for grabs: DStv Decoders, and from Samsung: Cameras, Camcorders, Laptops, Smartphones and the Galaxy Tab.
Click here to read the Terms and Conditions.
Sunday, May 1, 2011
Saturday, April 23, 2011
Easter Wishes
Oh! what a beautiful morning!
I've just dropped in to say.
I hope you have a beautiful,
And wonderful Easter Day!
Flowers are blooming everywhere,
Bird songs are in the air.
Spring is unfolding her treasures,
And wants us all to share.
Easter gives hope for tomorrow,
As after the winter comes Spring.
Our hearts can be filled with gladness
As hearts rejoice and sing.
Happy Easter!
Regard’s
Gasper’
Monday, December 20, 2010
ACKNOWLEGMENT
Dear Friends and Relatives
First of all I would like to thanks Almighty God the creator of everything, he blessed me with the faculty of understanding, physical and spiritual strength to accomplish my college studies.
I acknowledge the presence, prayers and heartily financially assistance of my Parents Mr. and Mrs. Mathias Mwaminifu, my brother Laurent,Bernard and my sister Gaudencia who they comforted me much when I was tired and their encouragement may God bless you all.
I would also like to thank the management of IAA and my classmates for the time we used together which increase my knowledge in IT related environment, also it has really been a rewarding experience in working environment at large, be blessed all.
I won’t be fair if I won’t express my gratitude to my closely friend,Mr. Shiwala, Henry, Lubimbi,DonnyP,Mzee Mwenzangu Dotto, Albert, Sylver, ManFas, Yohana, Mwanjoka and Zac for your challeges and supports. To my classmates Inno, Ekson,peninna,lily,Elisha,Viji,Jachi, and Reny.
It’s not easy to mention each and everyone by name. God bless you all.
Monday, November 16, 2009
Strokes
Strokes - For Your Information
Please put this information to memory as it may save someones life!
Blood Clots/Stroke - They Now Have a Fourth Indicator, the Tongue
STROKE: Remember the 1st Three Letters
S. T. R.
STROKE IDENTIFICATION:
During a BBQ, a woman stumbled and took a little fall - she assured everyone that she was fine (they offered to call paramedics) .she said she had just tripped over a brick because of her new shoes.
They got her cleaned up and got her a new plate of food. While she appeared a bit shaken up, Jane went about enjoying herself the rest of the evening
Jane's husband called later telling everyone that his wife had been taken to the hospital -
(at 6:00 pm Jane passed away.) She had suffered a stroke at the BBQ.. Had they known how to identify the signs of a stroke, perhaps Jane would be with us today. Some don't die. They end up in a helpless, hopeless condition instead.
It only takes a minute to read this...
A neurologist says that if he can get to a stroke victim within 3 hours he can totally reverse the effects of a stroke...totally. He said the trick was getting a stroke recognized, diagnosed, and then getting the patient medically cared for within 3 hours, which is tough.
RECOGNIZING A STROKE
Thank God for the sense to remember the '3' steps, STR .
Read and Learn!
Sometimes symptoms of a stroke are difficult to identify. Unfortunately, the lack of awareness spells disaster. The stroke victim may suffer severe brain damage when people nearby fail to recognize the symptoms of a stroke.
Now doctors say a bystander can recognize a stroke by asking three simple questions:
S *Ask the individual to SMILE.
T *Ask the person to TALK and SPEAK A SIMPLE SENTENCE (Coherently)
(i.e.. It is sunny out today.)
R *Ask him or her to RAISE BOTH ARMS.
If he or she has trouble with ANY ONE of these tasks, call emergency number immediately and describe the symptoms to the dispatcher.
New Sign of a Stroke --------
Stick out Your Tongue
NOTE: Another 'sign' of a stroke is this: Ask the person to 'stick' out his tongue.. If the tongue is 'crooked', if it goes to one side or the other, that is also an indication of a stroke.
A cardiologist says if everyone who gets this e-mail sends it to 10 people; you can bet that at least one life will be saved.
I have done my part.
Please put this information to memory as it may save someones life!
Blood Clots/Stroke - They Now Have a Fourth Indicator, the Tongue
STROKE: Remember the 1st Three Letters
S. T. R.
STROKE IDENTIFICATION:
During a BBQ, a woman stumbled and took a little fall - she assured everyone that she was fine (they offered to call paramedics) .she said she had just tripped over a brick because of her new shoes.
They got her cleaned up and got her a new plate of food. While she appeared a bit shaken up, Jane went about enjoying herself the rest of the evening
Jane's husband called later telling everyone that his wife had been taken to the hospital -
(at 6:00 pm Jane passed away.) She had suffered a stroke at the BBQ.. Had they known how to identify the signs of a stroke, perhaps Jane would be with us today. Some don't die. They end up in a helpless, hopeless condition instead.
It only takes a minute to read this...
A neurologist says that if he can get to a stroke victim within 3 hours he can totally reverse the effects of a stroke...totally. He said the trick was getting a stroke recognized, diagnosed, and then getting the patient medically cared for within 3 hours, which is tough.
RECOGNIZING A STROKE
Thank God for the sense to remember the '3' steps, STR .
Read and Learn!
Sometimes symptoms of a stroke are difficult to identify. Unfortunately, the lack of awareness spells disaster. The stroke victim may suffer severe brain damage when people nearby fail to recognize the symptoms of a stroke.
Now doctors say a bystander can recognize a stroke by asking three simple questions:
S *Ask the individual to SMILE.
T *Ask the person to TALK and SPEAK A SIMPLE SENTENCE (Coherently)
(i.e.. It is sunny out today.)
R *Ask him or her to RAISE BOTH ARMS.
If he or she has trouble with ANY ONE of these tasks, call emergency number immediately and describe the symptoms to the dispatcher.
New Sign of a Stroke --------
Stick out Your Tongue
NOTE: Another 'sign' of a stroke is this: Ask the person to 'stick' out his tongue.. If the tongue is 'crooked', if it goes to one side or the other, that is also an indication of a stroke.
A cardiologist says if everyone who gets this e-mail sends it to 10 people; you can bet that at least one life will be saved.
I have done my part.
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Have You Ever Done The Wave?
I would like to encourage you all to encourage everyone you can reach
with the power of love. There is nothing greater that anyone can give
or share than love. Folks, you are the rain makers, and with the loving
rain pouring down on others we will build a crop of endless supply. Send
a card to 10 friends and encourage them to pass it on. Then reach out
to those in closer proximity by phone or by a personal visit. Spare a
little of what you have, and you will start a surge.
"Hava a Big time watu wangu"
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Health tips
Health tips
1. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.
2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
3. Sleep for 7 hours.
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
5. Play more games.
6. Read more books.
7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.
8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
9. Dream more while you are awake.
10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is
manufactured in plants.
11. Drink plenty of water.
12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
13. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
14. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
15. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
16. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
17. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
18. Smile and laugh more.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don't compare your partner with others.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
25. Forgive everyone for everything.
26. What other people think of you is none of your business.
27. GOD heals everything.
28. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
29. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch
30. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
31. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
32. The best is yet to come.
33. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
34. Do the right thing!
35. Call your family often.
36. Your inner most is always happy. So be happy.
37. Each day give something good to others.
38. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
39. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
40. Please Forward this to everyone you care about.
1. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.
2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
3. Sleep for 7 hours.
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
5. Play more games.
6. Read more books.
7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.
8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
9. Dream more while you are awake.
10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is
manufactured in plants.
11. Drink plenty of water.
12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
13. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
14. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
15. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
16. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
17. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
18. Smile and laugh more.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don't compare your partner with others.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
25. Forgive everyone for everything.
26. What other people think of you is none of your business.
27. GOD heals everything.
28. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
29. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch
30. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
31. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
32. The best is yet to come.
33. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
34. Do the right thing!
35. Call your family often.
36. Your inner most is always happy. So be happy.
37. Each day give something good to others.
38. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
39. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
40. Please Forward this to everyone you care about.
Monday, July 13, 2009
Check product ya china…
Check product ya china…
Unajua hii ni gari gani?
Hii ni Rollsroyce ya Kichina..
Thursday, July 9, 2009
100 QUESTONS FOR COUPLES
100 QUESTONS FOR COUPLES
1.What was the first thing that attracted you about me?
2.Do you think that physical attributes are more important to maintaining a relationship or do you think that friendship maintains a relationship?
3.When you look at a woman, what is the first thing you notice?
4.Do you think its ok to keep noticing another woman after you are in a committed relationship? Does this change when you are married?
5.What is the first thing that you notice when you look at a man?
6.If I don’t say so, how do you know that I want to make love?
7.Describe the way I smell.
8.Tell me how you describe me to other people?
9.How often do you believe it is normal to want sex?
10.Do you masturbate?
11.How do you feel if I come into the bathroom when you are using the facilities?
12.When was the last time you took a shower together?
13.If your friend was cheating on their spouse, do you think you should tell their partner?
14.If your friend was cheating on their
spouse, would you tell your spouse about it?
15.What were you thinking about right before you kissed me for the first time?
16.After I had asked you out for the first time, did you consider saying no?
17.Was there anything that you were worried about the first time we were about to become naked?
18.How old were you when you had your first kiss?
19.How old were you the first time you had sex?
20.How old were you the first time you thought you were in love?
21.Who helped you figure out how to ask someone out on your first date?
22.Did you parents tell you about sex, or did you already know?
23.Describe your parents marriage. What was the best part and the worst part in your opinion?
24.Who was the first person who died in your life and how did you feel?
25.What animals do you like and not like?
26.Describe your perfect dream date.
27.Describe your perfect wedding.
28.Do you have sexual dreams? Tell me about some of them.
29.What is the most important thing that money can do for you?
30.Who had control of the money when you were growing up?
31.How did you learn what it meant to be a man/woman?
32.Do you believe in God?
33.If money were no object, what is the one thing that would be most important to you to do?
34.If you had one day to live, what would you do?
35.If you won the lottery, what would you like to accomplish?
36.If you gave money to charity, which ones would you choose and why?
37.Have you ever been cruel to an animal?
38.When you were a child, did you ever experiment sexually with another child?
39.Were you ever sexually, emotionally, or verbally abused?
40.Can you tell me what makes up your belief systems?
41.Who is the person you admire most and why?
42.What is the one thing that would be a relationship breaker for you?
43.How important do you think monogamy is to a relationship?
44.Who do you believe is the dominant one in a relationship and why?
45.How do you feel about having children?
46.Describe your philosophy on personal debt.
47.What is the one thing that I do that makes you crazy?
48.If you were really in trouble, who would you go to for advice?
49.Who do you feel responsible for in your life?
50.What are you beliefs about abortion?
51.How important do you believe organized religion is in a couples relationship?
52.Tell me when you first knew you loved me?
53.How do you handle anger? Has it ever caused a problem in your life?
54.How do you think divorce affects the couple involved?
55.What do you think should determine when a couple has a child?
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56.How do you plan to handle the aging of your parents?
57.If you died today, how would you like your final arrangements handled?
58.What do you think happens to you when you die?
59.If you were going to write a book, what would it be about?
60.Where is the one place that you want to go and why?
61.If you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?
62.If you won the lottery, would you continue working?
63.Do you feel that you have ever shown prejudice to another person?
64.Who is your very best friend and why?
65.How did you choose the career you are in?
66.What is one thing that could happen that would “make your day�
67.List things that constitute self care.
68.What is the most unselfish thing that you think you have ever done?
69.Do you believe in ghosts?
70.What would you want people to say about you after you had passed away?
71.What is your goal for the next 12 months? How do you plan to reach it?
72.Do you feel that you have enough education?
73.What was the biggest mistake you think you ever made and how did it change your life?
74.If you found someone’s wallet, what would you do with it?
75.Do you feel that one partner in a couple should be able to vacation alone?
76.What is important in a marriage to you?
77.What led up to your decision to get married? Why did you decide the time and person were right?
78.What is the last book you read? What was the most important reason for reading that book?
79.Do you think that taking a pen or scratch pad home from work is stealing?
80.Do you have a sexual fantasy that you haven’t acted out?
81.Have you ever experimented with someone of the same sex? What is your opinion of homosexuality?
82.Do you vote for the same party every election? Why?
83.When you are depressed, what do you do or how do you act? What do you do to overcome the depression?
84.Have you ever achieved a New Year’s resolution?
85.Who has the primary responsibility in marriage for raising the children?
86.What is the one thing that you'd like to change about yourself?
87.Have I ever embarrassed you?
88.If you could change one thing about me, what would it be?
89.What is the biggest regret in your life?
90.What is the biggest “known†secret in your family that nobody talks about?
91.What was your favorite age to be and why?
92.Do you believe that couples should keep separate bank accounts ? Who controls the money?
93.What do you do to make your partner happy that you don’t particularly like to do?
94.What is something that I do sexually that you like and don’t think that I do often enough?
95.What age do you think people are “old†and how do you think that changes their lives?
96.Do you think it is sometimes necessary to put aging parents in nursing homes?
97.Do you think that animals have souls?
98.If you could ask me one question, what would that be?
99.How do you know when I’m mad?
100.What is the one thing that you think that I could do that would hurt you the worst?
101.What do I cook that you are tired of?
102.If I were to cook something to surprise you, what would you like it to be?
103.What did you think the first time you met my mother and father?
104.After divorce, what do you think that parents could do to make the transition easier on the children?
105.Do you think that children of divorce are more likely to later be the victim of divorce?
106.How long do you think a person should spend alone between relationship?
107.Do you think men love differently than women?
108.If you are a man, what is the one thing that you think it would be important for a woman to know about men or vice versa…
109.Do you think marriage counseling works and why or why not?
110.Define love?
111.Describe yourself if you can't use profession/marital status?
112.What is the most important thing in your life?
113.What are you most ashamed of and why?
114.Do you believe that an internet “affair†is actually an affair?
115.Have you ever dated a married man/woman?
116.How would you describe your moral values?
117.How do you think you teach children moral values?
118.Who should talk to the children about sex and when?
119.What part do you think that you play in a child’s education?
120.What is your opinion of paying child support and/or alimony?
121.What do you think makes successful people successful?
122.What is the first memory you have?
123.Did you have a pet growing up and which was your favorite?
124.What is the thing that you fear most?
125.What would change in your life if you had total responsibility for your life and could never blame anyone else for anything?
126.What is the one thing that you wish that I would tell you?
127.When do you think that it is OK to keep a secret and why?
1.What was the first thing that attracted you about me?
2.Do you think that physical attributes are more important to maintaining a relationship or do you think that friendship maintains a relationship?
3.When you look at a woman, what is the first thing you notice?
4.Do you think its ok to keep noticing another woman after you are in a committed relationship? Does this change when you are married?
5.What is the first thing that you notice when you look at a man?
6.If I don’t say so, how do you know that I want to make love?
7.Describe the way I smell.
8.Tell me how you describe me to other people?
9.How often do you believe it is normal to want sex?
10.Do you masturbate?
11.How do you feel if I come into the bathroom when you are using the facilities?
12.When was the last time you took a shower together?
13.If your friend was cheating on their spouse, do you think you should tell their partner?
14.If your friend was cheating on their
spouse, would you tell your spouse about it?
15.What were you thinking about right before you kissed me for the first time?
16.After I had asked you out for the first time, did you consider saying no?
17.Was there anything that you were worried about the first time we were about to become naked?
18.How old were you when you had your first kiss?
19.How old were you the first time you had sex?
20.How old were you the first time you thought you were in love?
21.Who helped you figure out how to ask someone out on your first date?
22.Did you parents tell you about sex, or did you already know?
23.Describe your parents marriage. What was the best part and the worst part in your opinion?
24.Who was the first person who died in your life and how did you feel?
25.What animals do you like and not like?
26.Describe your perfect dream date.
27.Describe your perfect wedding.
28.Do you have sexual dreams? Tell me about some of them.
29.What is the most important thing that money can do for you?
30.Who had control of the money when you were growing up?
31.How did you learn what it meant to be a man/woman?
32.Do you believe in God?
33.If money were no object, what is the one thing that would be most important to you to do?
34.If you had one day to live, what would you do?
35.If you won the lottery, what would you like to accomplish?
36.If you gave money to charity, which ones would you choose and why?
37.Have you ever been cruel to an animal?
38.When you were a child, did you ever experiment sexually with another child?
39.Were you ever sexually, emotionally, or verbally abused?
40.Can you tell me what makes up your belief systems?
41.Who is the person you admire most and why?
42.What is the one thing that would be a relationship breaker for you?
43.How important do you think monogamy is to a relationship?
44.Who do you believe is the dominant one in a relationship and why?
45.How do you feel about having children?
46.Describe your philosophy on personal debt.
47.What is the one thing that I do that makes you crazy?
48.If you were really in trouble, who would you go to for advice?
49.Who do you feel responsible for in your life?
50.What are you beliefs about abortion?
51.How important do you believe organized religion is in a couples relationship?
52.Tell me when you first knew you loved me?
53.How do you handle anger? Has it ever caused a problem in your life?
54.How do you think divorce affects the couple involved?
55.What do you think should determine when a couple has a child?
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56.How do you plan to handle the aging of your parents?
57.If you died today, how would you like your final arrangements handled?
58.What do you think happens to you when you die?
59.If you were going to write a book, what would it be about?
60.Where is the one place that you want to go and why?
61.If you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?
62.If you won the lottery, would you continue working?
63.Do you feel that you have ever shown prejudice to another person?
64.Who is your very best friend and why?
65.How did you choose the career you are in?
66.What is one thing that could happen that would “make your day�
67.List things that constitute self care.
68.What is the most unselfish thing that you think you have ever done?
69.Do you believe in ghosts?
70.What would you want people to say about you after you had passed away?
71.What is your goal for the next 12 months? How do you plan to reach it?
72.Do you feel that you have enough education?
73.What was the biggest mistake you think you ever made and how did it change your life?
74.If you found someone’s wallet, what would you do with it?
75.Do you feel that one partner in a couple should be able to vacation alone?
76.What is important in a marriage to you?
77.What led up to your decision to get married? Why did you decide the time and person were right?
78.What is the last book you read? What was the most important reason for reading that book?
79.Do you think that taking a pen or scratch pad home from work is stealing?
80.Do you have a sexual fantasy that you haven’t acted out?
81.Have you ever experimented with someone of the same sex? What is your opinion of homosexuality?
82.Do you vote for the same party every election? Why?
83.When you are depressed, what do you do or how do you act? What do you do to overcome the depression?
84.Have you ever achieved a New Year’s resolution?
85.Who has the primary responsibility in marriage for raising the children?
86.What is the one thing that you'd like to change about yourself?
87.Have I ever embarrassed you?
88.If you could change one thing about me, what would it be?
89.What is the biggest regret in your life?
90.What is the biggest “known†secret in your family that nobody talks about?
91.What was your favorite age to be and why?
92.Do you believe that couples should keep separate bank accounts ? Who controls the money?
93.What do you do to make your partner happy that you don’t particularly like to do?
94.What is something that I do sexually that you like and don’t think that I do often enough?
95.What age do you think people are “old†and how do you think that changes their lives?
96.Do you think it is sometimes necessary to put aging parents in nursing homes?
97.Do you think that animals have souls?
98.If you could ask me one question, what would that be?
99.How do you know when I’m mad?
100.What is the one thing that you think that I could do that would hurt you the worst?
101.What do I cook that you are tired of?
102.If I were to cook something to surprise you, what would you like it to be?
103.What did you think the first time you met my mother and father?
104.After divorce, what do you think that parents could do to make the transition easier on the children?
105.Do you think that children of divorce are more likely to later be the victim of divorce?
106.How long do you think a person should spend alone between relationship?
107.Do you think men love differently than women?
108.If you are a man, what is the one thing that you think it would be important for a woman to know about men or vice versa…
109.Do you think marriage counseling works and why or why not?
110.Define love?
111.Describe yourself if you can't use profession/marital status?
112.What is the most important thing in your life?
113.What are you most ashamed of and why?
114.Do you believe that an internet “affair†is actually an affair?
115.Have you ever dated a married man/woman?
116.How would you describe your moral values?
117.How do you think you teach children moral values?
118.Who should talk to the children about sex and when?
119.What part do you think that you play in a child’s education?
120.What is your opinion of paying child support and/or alimony?
121.What do you think makes successful people successful?
122.What is the first memory you have?
123.Did you have a pet growing up and which was your favorite?
124.What is the thing that you fear most?
125.What would change in your life if you had total responsibility for your life and could never blame anyone else for anything?
126.What is the one thing that you wish that I would tell you?
127.When do you think that it is OK to keep a secret and why?
Monday, May 25, 2009
Don't give up! mtu wangu'
No matter how the situation is soo tough,
Usikate tamaa'
Always kuna alternative ya kukuokoa.
"Don't give Up"
Friday, May 22, 2009
Secretes to a successful & loving relationship'
Despite the piling evidence that very little romantic relationship is able to pass the test of time, many still strive for a lasting, committed relationship. The problem is, people don’t have a role model to demonstrate how to make a relationship last. I have found ten elements that are consistently named by relationship expert as guidelines to make a relationship last.
1. Love Yourself
It will be hard to understand why someone else will love you if you can’t love yourself. There are many ways to build self-esteem, check out the self-help section in your local bookstores or libraries for books on self-esteem and learn to love yourself. If you find it difficult to follow the techniques given or get the results you wanted, consider consulting a psychologist that can help you get to the root of your self-esteem problem.
2. Like Your Significant Others
It is not enough to simply love your partner. You have to truly like who they are. Liking someone means enjoying who that person is.
3. Respect Your Partner
Respecting your partner means being honest and open with them. It also means you have to consider their needs, wants and feelings. Usually, if you really like the person, respect will come naturally, even though everyone will be a little selfish sometimes. It is at this time that you need to constantly remind yourself to think of your partner and their feelings.
4. Communicate
Being open and honest isn’t always easy. You may find there are times where you don’t want to be honest because you don’t want to hurt your partner’s feelings. Remember that your partner can read your mood and though they may not know why, they can tell if you are enjoying yourself. Communicating with your partner of your needs, wants, likes and dislikes allow them to understand your further and also show that you respect them as a confidant.
5. Fight Fair
Sometimes, even with open and honest communication, arguments do happen. Fighting fair when argument does arise allows you to maintain mutual respect in the relationship. Fighting fair means using the “I” statement instead of the “you”. “You” statements are statements of blame and are design to belittle the other party and it doesn’t work towards solving the argument. By using “I” statements, you are able to communicate your point without putting your partner in the defensive.
6. Compromise
You and your partner should be like a team working towards common life goals. While most people like to “win” arguments, both of you will come out as “big winners” if you compromise on certain issues. Solutions of compromise will allow both parties to contribute to the relationship and come out stronger.
7. Touch Each Other Everyday
Intimacy is a major component in any romantic relationship and while open communication allows you to be intimate on an intellectual level, some other communication does not need words. A touch on the hand, a hug, small gestures can say a lot more to your partner than mere words.
8. Work At It
Romance is easy. Being a caring and contributing partner take work. People are fairly selfish by nature so most of the time you ought to remind yourself to think of your partner before yourself. It is also important to remember that you need to work on yourself and your contributions to the relationship instead of working towards changing your partner.
9. Spend Time Together
Couples that play together stay together. Spend time enjoying things together. Whether it’s taking up a hobby together or having a Sunday morning routine where you chat over a cup of coffee, enjoy each other.
10. Spend Time Apart
As important as it is to spend time together, you also need to spend time with yourself. Learning and growing on your own gives your tools to help build a stronger relationship because you can be a stronger contributor to it. However, not all of your time needs to be spend on learning or participating in hobbies, sometimes, just by taking an hour out to meditate or soak in the tub can help clear your mind of stress you otherwise will take out on your partner.
Many of the ’secrets’ of lasting relationships aren’t actually secrets at all. Basically, it’s a matter of ensuring that you are with your partner because of who they are and of thinking of your partner before yourself on a regular basis.
1. Love Yourself
It will be hard to understand why someone else will love you if you can’t love yourself. There are many ways to build self-esteem, check out the self-help section in your local bookstores or libraries for books on self-esteem and learn to love yourself. If you find it difficult to follow the techniques given or get the results you wanted, consider consulting a psychologist that can help you get to the root of your self-esteem problem.
2. Like Your Significant Others
It is not enough to simply love your partner. You have to truly like who they are. Liking someone means enjoying who that person is.
3. Respect Your Partner
Respecting your partner means being honest and open with them. It also means you have to consider their needs, wants and feelings. Usually, if you really like the person, respect will come naturally, even though everyone will be a little selfish sometimes. It is at this time that you need to constantly remind yourself to think of your partner and their feelings.
4. Communicate
Being open and honest isn’t always easy. You may find there are times where you don’t want to be honest because you don’t want to hurt your partner’s feelings. Remember that your partner can read your mood and though they may not know why, they can tell if you are enjoying yourself. Communicating with your partner of your needs, wants, likes and dislikes allow them to understand your further and also show that you respect them as a confidant.
5. Fight Fair
Sometimes, even with open and honest communication, arguments do happen. Fighting fair when argument does arise allows you to maintain mutual respect in the relationship. Fighting fair means using the “I” statement instead of the “you”. “You” statements are statements of blame and are design to belittle the other party and it doesn’t work towards solving the argument. By using “I” statements, you are able to communicate your point without putting your partner in the defensive.
6. Compromise
You and your partner should be like a team working towards common life goals. While most people like to “win” arguments, both of you will come out as “big winners” if you compromise on certain issues. Solutions of compromise will allow both parties to contribute to the relationship and come out stronger.
7. Touch Each Other Everyday
Intimacy is a major component in any romantic relationship and while open communication allows you to be intimate on an intellectual level, some other communication does not need words. A touch on the hand, a hug, small gestures can say a lot more to your partner than mere words.
8. Work At It
Romance is easy. Being a caring and contributing partner take work. People are fairly selfish by nature so most of the time you ought to remind yourself to think of your partner before yourself. It is also important to remember that you need to work on yourself and your contributions to the relationship instead of working towards changing your partner.
9. Spend Time Together
Couples that play together stay together. Spend time enjoying things together. Whether it’s taking up a hobby together or having a Sunday morning routine where you chat over a cup of coffee, enjoy each other.
10. Spend Time Apart
As important as it is to spend time together, you also need to spend time with yourself. Learning and growing on your own gives your tools to help build a stronger relationship because you can be a stronger contributor to it. However, not all of your time needs to be spend on learning or participating in hobbies, sometimes, just by taking an hour out to meditate or soak in the tub can help clear your mind of stress you otherwise will take out on your partner.
Many of the ’secrets’ of lasting relationships aren’t actually secrets at all. Basically, it’s a matter of ensuring that you are with your partner because of who they are and of thinking of your partner before yourself on a regular basis.
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